31 October 2025
Introduction
Ever found yourself scrolling through social media, only to feel worse about your appearance afterward? You’re not alone. The media—whether it's social media, TV, or magazines—has a massive impact on how we perceive ourselves. The crazy thing? Many of the images we’re exposed to are filtered, edited, or even outright fake.
But despite knowing this, why do we still feel pressured to look a certain way? And how does this constant exposure affect our self-esteem? Let’s dive into the complex relationship between media, body image, and self-worth.  
Think about it: Decades ago, beauty standards were defined by Hollywood stars and supermodels in magazines. Today, influencers and celebrities dominate our screens, setting unrealistic standards with every post. With filters, Photoshop, and cosmetic procedures becoming more accessible, the gap between reality and digital perfection grows wider.
But here’s the problem—when we're constantly bombarded with these idealized images, our brain starts to accept them as the norm. The result? A distorted perception of our own bodies.  
Ever compared yourself to someone on Instagram and felt inadequate? That’s exactly how media feeds insecurity. When we constantly see seemingly perfect people, our own flaws feel magnified, even though those "perfect" people have flaws too—they’re just hidden behind editing tools and strategic angles.
Platforms like Instagram and TikTok showcase influencers with seemingly flawless bodies. But what we don’t see? The effort behind those images—lighting, posing, professional photography, and sometimes even surgery.
And let’s not forget filters. With apps like FaceTune, anyone can tweak their appearance, making flawless skin and hourglass figures the norm. Over time, this can make real, unedited bodies seem "imperfect," even though they’re completely normal.  
Low self-esteem can manifest in various ways—avoiding social situations, negative self-talk, obsessing over flaws, and even developing mental health issues like anxiety or depression.
Many people post selfies or body photos hoping for positive reinforcement. When they receive likes, it feels good—like a quick dopamine hit. But when they don’t get enough engagement, they might feel rejected or unattractive. This rollercoaster of online validation can seriously mess with self-esteem, making external approval a necessity rather than a bonus.  
Society expects women to be slim but not too slim, curvy but not overweight, youthful but not artificial. It’s an exhausting, impossible standard that leaves many feeling like they’re never enough.
This expectation can lead to body dissatisfaction among men, pushing some to extreme dieting, excessive workouts, or even steroids. Yet, just like with women, these "ideal" male bodies are often a result of good genetics, personal trainers, and sometimes digital enhancement.  
Brands are starting to showcase real, unedited bodies. Influencers are sharing their "flaws." More people are embracing their natural selves instead of chasing an unrealistic ideal.
Does this mean media’s influence is gone? Not quite. But it does mean there's hope for a healthier, more inclusive perception of beauty.  
By being aware, mindful, and selective about what we consume, we can protect our mental well-being and embrace self-love. At the end of the day, beauty isn’t about fitting into a mold—it’s about feeling confident in your own skin.
So, next time you catch yourself comparing your body to an influencer’s, remember: social media is a highlight reel, not real life. You are enough, exactly as you are.
all images in this post were generated using AI tools
Category:
Psychological ResearchAuthor:
 
        Alexandra Butler